Interview with a Dominant – the prelude


Last year, I had the opportunity to be quizzed by Master Vile regarding my life as a Dominant and how that parlayed into our world. It’s been nearly a year since that interview was posted and I thought I would repost it in easier to digest “bite sized” chunks so as offer a bit more detailed guidance and stimulate new conversations about it while reinvigorating former dialogues.


The simple fact is, the FSOG movie came out and a bunch of folks went to see it. Those who haven’t completed their research probably looked at many of the scenes and didn’t understand the concepts. Disclaimer: FSOG isn’t reality, just in case you weren’t aware, lol. I dare say, there were likely even a few who did seem to “get it” and still these ideals escaped them. It’s okay. And no, I’m not gonna go through them here. Instead, I’d like to present the realities of living a 24/7 D/s lifestyle from this Dom’s perspective and then invite those interested to research those subjects which pique their interest and inspire a dialogue of questions.

Since we started blogging, one discovery we’ve made is that once a post goes up, it may be weeks or months (or even years) before someone may come across its content and ask or comment on it. It is for this reason alone that I have decided to repost the interview which Master Vile conducted with me via email. My hope here is that someone will be inspired enough by this dialogue to ask questions of me and others, research on their own, and begin to build their life anew as a member of the BDSM community.

As others have said before me, become active in the community, attend functions, participate in conversation, ask questions and most importantly never assume. The bottom line is that ecstasy comes in many forms in the BDSM world, but you need to research the details of this lifestyle to avoid being hurt by an unknowledgeable person, so yes, this information therefore becomes invaluable to both sides of the flogger; the Dominant at the handle and submissive at the tails.


I have divided this up into 8 parts plus this prelude and will post them over the next 8 days- one per day. One other preface here- these views and opinions are what have and continue to work for Mynx and I. These may or may not fit your lifestyle and that’s okay. I share these pieces of our life with you so that you may begin taking what might work for you and employ these ideas into your life using your style, creating your own version of this “life style.” There is no wrong way with following exceptions; safe, sane and consensual. These are the foundational words which must have strict adherence else be classified as abuse. Abuse is abuse. I have found a handful of abusers online and I do not appreciate nor tolerate abusive behavior.

Lastly, there is much more information which can be gleaned from the blogs of ours and others who have commented here. What’s completely ironic is that those whom I’ve identified as abusers and fakes have never commented on our blog. Huh. Coincidence? 100% of those who’s comments you see here have passed muster as safe, sane and consensual BDSM’ers who follow their own version of TTWD.

I appreciate your perspective, your respectful comments, questions, and I look forward to hearing from you.

-Tom Wolf (Mynx’s Sir)

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